How to Achieve Spiritual Fitness

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By Jonathan Ellerby, Ph.D.

When the year turns over, we reach a birthday, or mark a moment of life transition, most people take it as a cue to reflect on what they could do better or differently. For many of us, especially at New Year's, thoughts immediately turn to promises of new diets and more exercise—physical fitness. But what about spiritual fitness? What if your top priorities were inner intentions, like forgiveness and kindness, rather than outer intentions like a better body or more money?

The amazing thing that we all know, but easily forget, is that when we have inner strength the other goals we hold, like fitness, healed relationships, and prosperity, are easier to achieve. Here are ten essential tips to help you on to spiritual fitness in 2010.

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Tip 5: Pick a Weekly Practice: Break the 7-Day Cycle

A deep sense of spiritual wellbeing and inner strength comes from exercising your soul. A daily practice is essential for maintenance, but a more involved weekly practice will bring you depth. Your weekly practice should be much longer than your daily practice and typically could involve a group to help shape your context, keep your focus, and provide feedback. Church, synagogue, meditation groups, yoga, tai chi, singing in a choir, a contemplative walk in nature, or volunteering at the hospital could all be examples of a weekly practice. Try to have at least one thing that breaks up the weekly cycle of commitments and reminds you of what is most important.

Tip 6: Be a Sensible Seeker: Ask the Right Questions

Remember that when you seek spiritual teachers, texts, and community, it's important to be a conscious consumer. It's important to look for credentials, to be sure it feels like a fit, and to look deeper than what the marketing and advertising is telling you. Here are five critical questions to keep in mind - if you experience any of these things, it's likely time to step back, or step away completely.

Do you feel that your or other people's sense of integrity is being violated?
Do you feel the financial cost exceeds the value offered?
Do you feel more dependent than empowered?
Do you see behaviour that you'd otherwise consider abuse if it happened elsewhere (sexual, emotional, physical, etc.)?
Do you feel the teacher or program has become more important than the goal of growth, personal awakening or your own direct connection to a Higher Power?

Tip 7: Find a Teacher

On one hand, finding a good self-help or spiritual teacher is getting harder all the time. As it gets easier for people to self-appoint and self-promote, it becomes harder to figure out whom to listen to, or what teacher to get involved with. On the other hand, not having a teacher or a trusted guide of some kind can lead to disaster or misdirection. Try to incorporate a teacher, mentor, or guide in your life, at least on an occasional basis, and use these four questions to help you research your choice:

Do they have a mentor or mentors in a recognized tradition or community that trained and prepared them for their work?
Will they openly share their history of training and study with specific details?
Are they a part of or endorsed by a community that you consider credible and recognizes their work and stands behind their reputation? This should not be their own organization (it could be a larger group such as a hospital, a university, a resort, a religious community, a training association, or a professional association).
Do they demonstrate the 4H's of a good spiritual teacher-- Honesty, Humility, Heart-centeredness, Humor?

Tip 9: Know When to Move On

Whether you are struggling with a teacher, a practice, or a community, one of the biggest challenges is to stay committed and present even when you feel like checking out. Sometimes our greatest breakthroughs come after we have found the courage to learn a little more and trust the process. In other cases, the greatest lesson is to honor your limits, your needs, and your truth. Staying too long in something that doesn't serve you can be harmful, even dangerous. If you aren't able to tell the difference between the good reasons for staying and the good reasons for going, find a few friends or trusted guides to explore your feelings with. If you are honest and your counsel is reasonable, you'll quickly find your answer.

Tip 10: Live B.I.G. (with Blessing, Intention and Gratitude)

At the heart of all spiritual growth and meaningful practice is the role of your attitude and intent. The attitude you bring to your life, yourself, and your spiritual path will be reflected in what it returns to you. Amongst the many important attitudes are what I think of as "the big three." Anchor your life, your choices, your attitude, and your practice in the big three and you will find that all the inner strength and love you seek. You can remember these three by their acronym: BIG. Just remember to live BIG:

Blessing – bring a mindset of blessing to each struggle and situation you encounter. This means both to look for the blessing in each situation and to bless what you struggle with – if it doesn't change the situation, it will change you.

Intention – attention follows focus and if you are clear in what you intend to be or create you will be more likely to find it, or attract it. Intention also gives you a reference point for your decisions, rather that react, consider your intention, then make your choice.

Gratitude – take time as often as you can to feel gratitude for whatever goodness there is in your life. Sometimes it may be for simple things and other times profound, but feeling thankful will help you to look for the best in situations and bring out a sense of peace and contentment in you.