When any long-term marriage fails it is a tragedy, but within church communities, when a long-term marriage fails due to the infidelity of one spouse, the failure of the marriage is sometimes regarded not with loving concern but with a deep sense of shame. I lost church friends I had known for years. No one was throwing stones at me as in the Gospel story of the adulterous woman, but in a very real way, I felt like Frodo in Tolkien’s story. I had become invisible to others and was lost in a dark and dystopian world formed of my own sins.
Alone on the vast sea»