In thinking about attending the Women’s March on Washington this weekend, I mull over its platform and listen to other people’s thoughts on the topic. Attendees have a wide range of reasons for taking the time and trouble to unite to stand for human rights. A super wide range.

While mentally processing what I want to stand for and give voice to this Saturday, I realized it was super difficult to judge. Then I realized it was nearly impossible to judge because judging by appearance doesn’t get to the heart of the problem.

In a crowd of thousands fighting for abortion rights, I know the true fighters for abortion rights are the ones who don’t use abortion as a mode of birth control, but respect it for life.

On the other hand, the true pro-lifer is the pro-lifer who gives love and a home to unwanted children.

I’ve fostered children and there is nothing more wrenching than seeing a child who believes and was treated as though they were unwanted.

I’ve never had an abortion. I’ve only had sex with my one and only husband of 33 years. Abstinence and monogamy safeguard me from ever needing an abortion. However, I have a dear friend who has had two abortions and multiple boyfriends. Moreover she has saved my goody two-shoes ass multiple times with her street smarts.  It’s impossible to judge her as a good or bad person when viewing her through the eyes of love and gratitude.

Her promiscuity has simmered down since she’s met and hung with me. In other words, she doesn’t judge me as good or bad. We just love and continue to try to change for the better each day.

As for the Women’s March, I’m going to unite for the sake of uniting with we the people trying to change for the better. And, I already know that if I am going to stand to support those who are marginalized, I must also not marginalize anyone in the new administration. I can’t demonize the new administration. It’s not good or bad. Supreme good is God and is our source of thought and action.

From John 7:24, “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”