Question submitted via Formspring:
“I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), says he is breaking up but never does? Whats going on?”

If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, then you’ll have married a man who cheats on his wife.
-Ann Landers.

The simple answer is: move on.
The reason why you should move on, is one of two things is going to happen, perhaps one of three:
1.He is never going to leave her, and you are wasting your time.
2.He IS going to leave her, but you’ll never trust him ever, since you know he has it in his character to cheat.
3.He really leaves her for you, but is constantly comparing you to her and every time you fight he tries to run back to her.

A common mistake people make is to leave one person for another person; a situation that will cause problems 99% of the time.
The reason why this is, is because you are comparing the totality of your relationship with your current person: seeing them happy and sad, sick and well, funny and depressing, with the other person’s best foot forward.
Or put it another way: the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence because you don’t have to mow it!

For this guy, or anyone else in a situation like this, he needs to do two things:
First he needs to decide if his current relationship has truly over, and either work with his girl to fix it, or break up and move on.
THEN the two of you need to decide if you want to be together, starting from scratch.

To do it any other way is to invite problems. Hands off this guy until he gets his act together!
Keep us posted on how it turns out.

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