It seems to be true that whenever a couple talks incessantly about how much in love they are they break up soon afterwards, and this was true for Kate Hudson and Chris Robinson. National Ledger has my profile of the breakup (turn on your popup blockers!) and I won’t repeat it here. But some of the emails I received in response to the post started me thinking again about the concept of the soulmate.

Most single people are looking for their soulmate, and some who are married too I suppose. Many people think the soulmate will be their perfect match in every way, perhaps a mirror to reflect their own value. In real life, the soulmate relationship usually doesn’t work that way.

Often when two people meet and feel an immediate connection there is a linkage between their two charts, sometimes a harmonious connection (trines and sextiles) and sometimes a challenging one (squares and oppositions). Often it is the challenging connections that feel more exciting and dynamic, but then once the excitement of the new relationship dies down the intensity of the connection has a tendency to fade, leaving the conflicting nature of the connection to be dealt with. That’s usually when we see breakups, but that is often the point where real soul growth can begin to take place.

Marriage has been called the “yoga of relationships,” because like yoga it connects the body, mind and spirit in connection with another. It’s not always the easiest of paths, particularly in the goldfish bowl of celebrity, but one of the most rewarding.