Two things I have learned in my life:

1. If you have to ask the question, the answer is no.

and

2. If you don’t know what to do, it’s not yet time to make a decision.

In my younger days I, like many others, sought the advice of psychics, tarot readers, palmists, past life regressionists, spiritual advisers. I desperately wanted to be told what to do. Should I stay with this guy? Would that other one ever love me? Would I ever get a job that I wanted?

Now I’m the adviser that people come to with these questions. “I am not a fortune teller,” I warn them. “I can’t tell you when you will meet your soulmate and frankly, no one can. That’s not how this works.” Yet still their hearts are yearning for the answers to their questions. What we often don’t realize is that those answers are given from within but very few of us really trust our own inner voice.

The woman who wants to leave her husband but is afraid to lose the security of her marriage knows in her heart what to do, but her head is arguing with her. Still, the voice in her heart drives her and she asks counselor after counselor, should I leave my husband? Counselors all tell her different things because no such person can or should answer this question. Decisions are part of the process of our life: we’re given free will so that we can make a choice at every moment. I truly believe that there are no mistakes in life; each doorway opens to a new world of evolution. The anxiety of not knowing how to proceed can be excruciating, but sometimes we just have to wait until the answer comes from within. Then the questions fall away. The process of discovering the answer is crucial to our personal development which is why I will never tell a client what to do even the answer is obvious to me.

The astrological reading will point out the strengths and weaknesses in the relationship, it will explain why the lover was more attractive than the wife and why the affair failed. It will open up a doorway into the querent’s inner world and explain perhaps the origin of his inner dissatisfaction that was projected into the marriage. It will not, and should not in my opinion, answer the question of what to do next. Those questions and choices belong to each individual and only them.

If you have to ask the question, the answer may be no or it may be that the time has not yet come to make the decision. If you know you want to marry someone, you don’t have to ask your friends, psychics, parents, etc. You know the answer and move confidently forward. But sometimes we don’t know the answer and even when we ask the questions of others and receive their advice we are still confused. At these times we can only wait for clarity: there is more information yet to receive, more process to unfold before the answer is given.

Meditation is a beautiful tool to help us to tune in to our inner voice and help us to listen more carefully to what it has to say. The more we listen inside the more we will learn to trust that voice that comes through our heart. Then the magic of our life unfolds more easily as we learn to follow the flow of our inner guidance.