There are 3 things that come to mind as I write this…

  1. The Rock band, “The Who”
  1. The album they came out with in 1978 entitled, “Who Are You” (which is also a song on the album)
  1. My actual question to you…”Who are you?”

Of course it is the last choice above that I’ll be speaking about today.

Now you may be thinking about why I’m asking you this question.

The reason is because this is something that is very important for you to think about that can and does determine the type of life you want to live.

While this may seem like just some 3 word question, it goes way beyond that.

As interesting and quite often surprising as it may seem, many of the situations we find ourselves in has to do with not knowing who we truly are.

Even though at our true core selves we do know, our actions say otherwise.

What do I mean by this?

If you find yourself saying, “I should”, “I have to”, “I’m supposed”, “I need to”, that is a sign that you’re not doing what is true to you.

Now of course you may be in a situation in a certain part of your life currently that has you in this type of situation, such as working a job you may not like or just doing something you don’t want to be doing.

This is understandable. We’ve all been through this. I’ve been through it.

What I’m getting at here is if this becomes what seems like a life time pattern of it.

Also involved in this is comparing yourself to someone else and think that they have a better deal than you.

I’ll be straight forward about this…

Even though it may seem on the outside that someone else has it “better” in their life, you do not ever want to come from the mindset of, “I wish I could trade places with them.

The reason is, because even though they may be doing something that you would love to do, you don’t know what else is going on in the different areas of their life.

An excellent example of this is someone you see who is very financially wealthy. Yes, they may have the financial wealth but what about the other areas of their life.

They may have the money but they may also have a major physical health issue. Or a major family issue. Or they may have a major mindset issue that is running their life.

What if you are in excellent physical health, have the type of loving family you want, and have a very strong mindset? Yes you may not have this other person’s financial wealth, but the others areas of your life I mentioned are solid.

You see my point.

The main point here is to just be yourself, whatever that is for you.

Look for living your life by, “I love to”, I’m inspired to”, “I’m blessed to”, “This is what I’ve always dreamed of”, and your energy shifts and so to with it the rest of your life.

Talking about this always brings me back to the Oscar Wilde quote

“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”

No matter what you do in life you’ll always be dealing with the supports and challenges, the pleasures and pains, the giving and taking, the ease and difficulty.

Even though there’s no getting around this for anyone, wouldn’t you enjoy it more if you’re doing what you love and being true to yourself?

So I started off today talking about the rock band, “The Who” and am finishing up talking about Oscar Wilde…interesting how certain things play out.

The same is true in your life.

What may seem like a low point in your life currently may be the very thing you need to breakthrough it.

At first things may not go as planned but as long as you stay with it, while being true to yourself along the way, you have a very high probability of living the type of life you’d love to live.

And you’ll also show how magnificent of a person you are and the tremendous amount of value you contribute to the world with your uniqueness.

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