Sometimes it defies logic beyond belief…

While other times it makes perfect sense.

Some people see it as a gift. Then you have others who see it as a curse.

There are also people who know it exists…

And as strange and outrageous as it sounds, there are people who claim it will end any second.

No matter how you look at it the fact is, this does exist and we’re all in it together.

Even though it is different for each of us it’s still the same for all of us…

Except for one thing.

What am I talking about?

Life.

That’s the part which is the same for all of us. Life exists all around us.

What part is different?

The memories and experiences that you encounter during your life’s journey. Yours may be similar to others but the fact is that they’re all different.

But here’s something that is the same for all of us…

We all have things we’d love to remember and immediately forget. Keep this in mind as you ask yourself the following question…

“What do you remember most about your life?”

1. The bicycle of life- I still remember the day when the training wheels were taken off my bicycle and I was able to peddle away…unassisted and without falling down. I was four going on five. What I didn’t realize at the time is that life is like a bicycle. What I also wasn’t aware of is that most people see life as a unicycle.

When I rode that bicycle with the training wheels on it was easy. It became more challenging when those training wheels came off. Because now I went from four wheels to two. 

If I had to ride a unicycle it would have been much tougher. And no matter how good you can get at riding a unicycle, your chances are still greater that you’ll fall off because it’s only one wheel. It’s less stable than a two wheel bicycle.

So what does this have to do with what you remember most about your life?

The moments that you remember most about your life are two sided. These include what you may see as a moment being more positive in any way…

It also applies to those moments you may see as being more negative as well.

You see it’s easy to remember the “positive” moments and forget the “negative” moments. It can also be easier at times to see more “negative” moments and forget the “positive” moments. But the fact is that even those so called “negative” moments had the positive in them. 

The same can be said of the so called “positive” moments. As they also have the negative in them as well.

This is incredibly important to be aware of because it will give you deeper insights into your life’s journey. It will allow you to “connect the dots” in you life.

And what’s the result of this?

You’ll have that “aha” moment that transforms your life. And it can be in any area of your life. And on top of that it will open the floodgates of other moments that you were never aware of…

That triggers off even more of these “aha” moments.

This is what happens when you ride the bicycle of life instead of riding the unicycle.

2. Helping hands Helping hearts- It’s pretty obvious that your life’s journey and what you remember most involves the people you come across during your life. And it’s safe to say that you come across tens of thousands of different people—ranging from family, friends, acquaintances, and everyone else in between.

But of course they’ll be certain people who stand out most. These will be the people who have mattered most to you. These are the people who have impacted your life in some way.

And once again this will involve the bicycle of life.

Now at first you may see the people who have mattered most to you as being nice, supportive, and kind. This is very important.

Equally as important is that you realize that these same people were mean, challenging, and cruel to you in some way…

Huh?

Think about this…

Take a look at someone who really had a “positive” impact in your life, someone who even perhaps made the difference between you being here today versus you not being here today.

Along with the times where you saw them as being nice, supportive, and kind…

Look to see where and when they were mean to you. Where they really challenged you. Where they were cruel in some way.

This isn’t something you ever thought of doing, right?

Well when you do you’ll see something pretty amazing that you weren’t aware of.

And here’s what it is.

The only way that you could possible see this special person as having a major impact in your life is if they were both nice and mean, supportive and challenging, kind and cruel to you.

At first you may not noticed or wanted to see the “negative” but when you look you’ll see that they provided the bicycle of life to you. If they didn’t you would not see them as being that special person in your life.

And this works the other way too.

The people you perceived as being mean, challenging, and cruel also impacted your life in a large way. It may seem “negative” on the surface. But when you look deeper these types of people were there to get you to be stronger, to stand up for yourself, to be your true authentic self.

Each of these types of people are not only helping hands, but they are also helping hearts. 

And this is something certainly to remember most about your life.

3. Dust in the wind– The memories you have along with the special moments that occur during your life are very important. To some people they may not seem that important. But to you they are and that’s what matters.

Therefore whatever you remember most about your life is something that occurred which is unique to you. To others it may seem like “dust in the wind” or not that big of a deal. But it is a big deal. Because it involves you being the amazing person you are.

What’s equally important in all of this is that what has occurred in the past—or as some would call the “good old days”— has it’s equal today in what I like to call the “good new days.”

Instead of looking back and wishing things were like it used to be, it is very wise to look at today and how you can create what is today—the “good new days”—which ten or twenty years from now will be considered the “good old days.”

And in both cases it involves something and someone that you’ll remember most about your life.

You were put on this planet to be a shining star, not dust in the wind.

You are here today to be a glowing ray of light, not a speck of sand on a beach.

You are here to contribute something of tremendous value to the world, not to just sit on the sideline and watch the parade pass by.

Always remember…

Every person, every situation, and every idea has served a purpose in your life.

While certain people, situations, and ideas may stand out more than others, the fact is that all of them count and contribute to the magnificence and brilliance of who you are and what you’re here to be, do, and have.

This is also why you are a blessing to the world and the people around you.

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