I love this word: beshert which is Yiddish for ‘meant to be’. It refers to the heart and soul connection between partners whose reunion is predestined. There is a similar concept in the Gaelic language, called Anam Cara (soul friend). I know for certain that every relationship I have ever been or ever will be in has that flavor to it. Even those that I wouldn’t wish to repeat, were called to me for a valuable purpose which is to learn something I might not have, had our paths not crossed. Some taught me about what I didn’t want and some that I desire with every fiber of my being.  It is said that relationships are there for a reason, season or lifetime and are no less valid even if they are brief encounters.

I count myself blessed to have many of what I consider those types of relationships that ripen by duration. There are some folks who I don’t see face to face often, but we pick up where we left off and others who I am with regularly. Depth and frequency of contact are not one in the same. I allow some people in more deeply than others, by choice, inclination and a sense of safety with them. Some of them have been lovers and our relationships have shifted. Others are platonic and no less treasured, just different energies.

How do I know that a relationship falls into the beshert box?

At our initial meeting, there is a feeling of “Oh there you are again, how long has it been?”

A goofy shared sense of humor, laughing at the cosmic joke.

A heart-racing feeling of  “I’m so excited to be in your presence,” whether it is physical or just emotional.

A synching up of energies; thinking of that person and then they get in contact with me.

A shared passion for life.

Being able to talk freely about ‘life, the Universe and everything’, never running out of things to say.

Comfortable silence.

A knowing that there was a ‘sacred soul contract’ that we agreed to eons ago that we are living out now.

Being a greater force for good in the world together.

What does it mean to you?

Beshert  by Ari Gold