Here’s an excerpt from Denise Roy’s wonderfully helpful new book “Momfulness: Mothering with Mindfulness, Compassion, and Grace.” Try this practice when you’re running late with your family, or just feeling stressed, she says.

1. First, take a slow, deep breath–for you.

2. Become aware of your thoughts, your feelings, and your physical sensations.

3. Pay attention to what’s happening inside you. Are some of your buttons getting pushed? Are these old patterns?

4. Now take another deep breath for your children.

5. Notice what is going on with them. What is it like from their point of view?

6. Then take a breath for the “Now what?” Ask yourself, What is needed in this moment?

7. See if you can find grace in the chaos.

8. Then choose what you want to do next.