It’s not a time for perfume and bath powder.

This Mother’s Day calls for less frou-frou and more action, says astrologer Shelley Ackerman. Mars squares Pluto on May 13. “This war-like aspect is more descriptive of a military strike or a demolition than it is for a quiet civilized meal.” She advises kids, husbands, and partners to do something this Sunday that involves muscle and teamwork. “Is there a part of the house or apartment that needs painting, renovating, or remodeling? Could Mom use help clearing out the old to make room for the new?”

If your life doesn’t include a Mom right now, can you use this active energy to mother yourself?