You may be seeking deeper intimacy. Spiritual intimacy. You may be wanting to be known more deeply and seen more truly–by your partner or by your own gorgeous self. You may want to be relished, ravaged, broken open, loved for who you truly are.

What a coincidence–Valentine’s Day is coming up.

Here is what the Chattering Mind suggests: the best present to give any loved one is the work of writer David Deida.

Deida’s writings and lectures on men, women, sexuality, wholeness, and spirituality now come in several forms. I quote a couple of charteristically passionate passages from his book “Blue Truth” below. Have a look.

As a founding associate of the Integral Institute, Deida has taught and conducted research at the University of California’s Medical School in San Diego, and the University of California at Santa Cruz. He preaches sexuality as a spiritual practice, as a rite of passage, as a sacred act. He says a lot of us are going through the sexual motions, but there is so much more we can learn from our partners and from our own sexual development.

If you’re shopping for a man in your life, study the write-up for “The Way of the Superior Man,” which you might have to buffer with a box of chocolates so you don’t look like you’re trying to change him. Because you’re not! You want him to know himself, so he can love from his deepest, truest resevoirs.

If you’re shopping for a woman, the book “Dear Lover” is a wonderful choice. It provides astonishing perspectives on the love that comes from a full and open heart. An ideal gift for two people in love to give themselves, would be the new Deida audio course on “Enlightened Sex.”