As promised, from David Deida’s “Blue Truth.”:

“Naive youth gets lost in the brief rush of pleasure. Depressed grown-ups linger in the not-enough of vacant embrace. The truth is that every moment is tangibly insubstantial. The true lover surrenders beyond all hold, as naked life is.

“But to get to this point requires outgrowing your grasp on feeling good–or bad–about sex. Early in your sexual life, enjoy the thrill of romance and fascination for as long as it lasts. Then, frolic in the middle days of unsatifying but decent sexual routine.

“Eventually, when hope has worn away, when you have no other choice, relax in the coat of emptiness you already wear. Don love’s open bliss. Bear edgeless luminosity. Sex is a revelation of what is, intensely.”