“If we have lost someone we love, we must be able to raise ourselves to a feeling of thankfulness that we have had him; we must be able to think selflessly of what he was to us until his death, and not of what we feel, now that we have him no more. The better we can feel what he was to us during his lfe, the sooner will it be possible for him to speak to us; to speak to us through the common air of gratitude.”

–Rudolf Steiner, “Earthly Death and Cosmic Life.”