Sunday is Message Day on the blog. Monday through Friday we look at contemporary events and day-to-day occurrences at the intersection of Life and the New Spirituality…but on Sunday, we reserve this space for a specific teaching derived from the material in Conversations with God
This week’s message: The Be-Do-Have Paradigm
Nothing is more fundamental to the entire CwG cosmology than the Be-Do-Have Paradigm. I want to say at the outset of this lesson that this whole concept is explained in wonderful detail—more detail than we can get into here, in this relatively short lesson—in the book Bringers of the Light.
This book really gets into the Be-Do-Have Paradigm so beautifully and so effectively that I want you to read it. If you are at all serious about really understanding this in a functional way, I want you to read it. Again, I’m going to say that this Paradigm info is fundamental to everything that CwG is about. It determines the place you’re coming from—and that determines the place to which you’re going.
Here, in this relatively brief lesson, let me roll it out to you in short form.
The “Be-Do-Have Paradigm” is a way of looking at life. It is nothing more or less than that. Yet this way of looking at life could change your life—and probably will. Because what is true about this paradigm is that…

…most people have it all backward, and when they finally get it straightened out and start looking at it frontward, every in their life shifts 180-degrees.
Most people (I know I did) started out with the understanding that how life worked is this: Have-Do-Be. That is, what I HAVE the right stuff, I can DO the right things, and then I will get to BE what I want to be.
When I HAVE good grades I can DO the thing called graduate and I can BE the thing called employable—might be one example. Here’s another. When I HAVE enough money I can DO the thing called buy a house and I can BE the thing called secure. Want one more? Here goes: When I HAVE enough time I can DO the thing called take a vacation and I can BE the thing called rested and relaxed.
See how it works? This is how my father, my school, my society told me that it works. Life works this way. The only problem is, I was NOT getting to BE the things I thought I was going to get to be after I had did all that I thought I had to do, and had all that I thought I needed to have.
Or, if I did get to be that, I only got to be it for a short period of time. Soon after I got to be “happy” or “secure” or “contented,” or whatever it was that I thought I was going to get to be, I found myself once again UNhappy, INsecure, and NOT contented!
I didn’t seem to know how to “hold onto the stuff.” I didn’t know how to make the flavor last. So it always seemed as if I did all that I had to do for nothing. It felt like wasted effort, and I began to resent that in my life.
Then I had the conversations with God experience, and everything changed. God told me that I was starting out in the wrong place. What I needed to do was BEGIN where I thought I was going to GO.
All creation starts from a place of BEING, God said, and I have had it in the reverse. The trick in life is not to try to get to be “happy,” or be “secure,” or whatever, but to start out BEING happy, or BEING content, of whatever, and go from there in the living of our daily lives.
But how do you do that if you don’t HAVE what you NEED TO HAVE in order to be happy, etc.? That’s the question, and it’s a fair one. The answer is that coming FROM a state of being, rather than trying to get TO a state of being, practically assures that the “havingness” end of the equation is taken care of.
When you come FROM a state of being, you need to have nothing in order to begin the process. You simply select, quite arbitrarily, a state of being, and then come from that place in everything you think, say, and do. But because you are thinking, saying, and doing what only a person who is being happy, contented, or whatever, thinks, says and does, the things that a happy or contented person winds up HAVING come to you automatically.
Let’s try this out and see if it really can work that way. Let’s say that what a person wants to BE is the thing called “secure.” If that is the desired experience, what we can do is start OUT from the square on the playing board that says, I AM SECURE. We start out with this idea, and this is the operating idea behind everything we do. We have moved into the BE-Do portion of the paradigm.
When a person does what only a secure person would do, that person almost automatically winds up having what only a secure person would have. Try it out some time. It’s amazing how this works.
Yet how can you BE “secure” if you are not feeling that way? And what if you “have” none of the things that a “secure” person would have?
The answer is, you decide that you ARE “secure”—whether it looks that way or not. Then you DO what a “secure” person does. Your drop away any other behaviors that don’t harmonize with that. Soon, the only behaviors that are left are behaviors that produce the result. You come FROM a place of mind that causes attitudes to shift, and realities to change.
So look to see what it is you want to BE in life—that is, what state of beingness you wish to experience. It may be more than one. But just try one at a time for a while. Choose the state of being, then move into that. It is merely a decision, based on nothing. It’s a decision made out of choice. Pure choice.
Then act the way a person who is being that would act. Say the things that a person who is being that would say. Do only the things that a person who is being that would do. You will amaze yourself at how effective this process is in producing a state of Having that corresponds with what you’ve chosen to be.
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