Wednesday is Question and Answer Day on the blog…a time for exploring many of the questions that people have recently asked about the nine Conversations with God books and the New Spirituality. Here’s this week’s entry…
Question: Dear Mr. Walsch: I have a question that I would appreciate help with. I’m sure that there are many of us who have reached a point in our lives at which we just don’t know “Who We Want to Be.” Can you furnish me with any guidance in this matter? I have a long list of “Who I Have Been,” but these hats no longer fit very well. Waynella, Dallas, TX.
Neale’s Response:Dear Waynella, If you don’t know Who You Want to Be, who does? Yet if you just can’t make a choice out of the endless possibilities in the universe, then try this: simply reverse the question. Who do you not want to be? Merely stop being who you do not want to be, and you will automatically be Who You Want to Be.
Remember, Waynella, the “who” that you want to “be” is not a person, not an occupation, not a thing that you “do.” It is something that you choose to “be.” We are talking about “beingness” here, not “doingness.” For instance, long ago I chose to no longer “be” the thing called selfish, or hurtful; unkind or insensitive; self-centered or needy. It took a long time for my body to get the message. It was still going around “doing” things which came from these supposedly unwanted states of being. But then, little by little, things began to change. I started eliminating behaviors I no longer wanted; be haviors that did not represent (that is to say, re-present) me in the way that I chose to “be.”
Today I am very much a different person from the man I was even a few short years ago. And, as a result of the new state of beingness into which I have fallen (it is some thing like falling, too, by the way, not unlike “falling in love”), I find my body “doing” things that only a body which is not “being” all those un wanted things would do. Doing arises out of beingness, and it is always thus, although very few people really know or understand this.
I am not sure you and I are talking about the same thing; but I am sure that this is what Conversations with God is talking about when it discusses Who You Really Are. You are not a human doing, you are a human being. Now if this is what you are talking about in your letter, the decision as to who you “want to be” will be not nearly so difficult. And what you will discover is that as soon as you become who you “want to be” in your state of beingness, you will begin to find ways to “do” what you have always wanted to “do” with your life. It is always astonishing to me to see how many people move into their right livelihood, creating the right and perfect “career” for themselves, as a result of their decision to “be” Who They Really Are. Indeed, that is exactly how I came to be “doing” what I am doing today!
So here’s what I want you to get, Waynella: It all starts with beingness. The answer to your question will be found there. Stop trying to find the right and perfect thing to “do,” and start trying to create the right and perfect thing to “be.” The “doingness” that is perfect for you will follow. I promise.
(Ask Neale may be accessed on a daily basis in the Messengers’ Circle at Neale’s personal website: www.nealedonaldwalsch.com. Each week Neale selects a question from those posted there and publishes it in this blog.)