Talking about depression is important for dealing with depression. But some people question the benefits of talking about depression. How can talking about depression help you when you don’t want to talk about how you’re feeling? Is it more about making others feel good that they’re helping you? Does depression talk only give advice and nothing more than that?

Talking about depression helps everyone.

The plain simple reason for depression talk is it lets you give voice to your pain. Maybe up to now you haven’t told anyone you’re depressed. Maybe you won’t admit it to yourself. It might even be that you don’t know you’re depressed. No one can help you if you won’t give voice to your pain. It’s like having a tumour but not telling anyone, not even a doctor. Bad idea, right? If no one knows what your problem is, no one will know you need help.

The first time you say to someone “I feel depressed” or “I think I might be depressed”, you might feel awkward. You’re unsure, scared, suspicious. That’s why it’s important that the person you reach out to is someone you trust, and whose motives you won’t start questioning. There are also really great supports like Active Minds, the Trevor Project, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Take the leap of faith. Trust that someone out there cares for you. Someone loves you. Someone wants to help you.

Talking about depression breaks the stigma that leads to social isolation. People may call you crazy, mental or lazy because they don’t get it, they don’t understand or know depression like you. You might even be blamed for catching depression, like it was some flu or cold you could have avoided. And depression is NOT a punishment from God.

Talking about depression creates change. It’s a societal movement towards something more positive. Talk creates a better mental and emotional space, where there’s understanding and support. It also creates a positive energy and a more supportive space for anyone in the future who suffers with depression.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.