I generally like the work of biological anthropologist, Helen Fisher. She wrote a book called, The Anatomy of Love, and concludes that women are more wired for monogamy than men.

She claims that men are wired to want sex with many partners and women with just one partner. She believes the difference has to do with women’s need for security and constant love. In other words, monogamy is for women only!

Marital researcher, John Gottman, argues the point. Gottman tells us that historically monogamy was designed by men for the purpose of ascertaining paternity to enable inheritance property. He goes on to say that social changes have questioned this monogamy need for women. With more access to men in the workplace, more economic power, affair rates for men and women are more equal. In other words, with women in the workforce and having more economic power, they don’t act differently than men when it comes to straying from their one partner.

I say, monogamy is for men and women based on our free will to decide what to do with our passions and lusts no matter the source–biological wiring or access to more partners!