We hear a lot about emotionally intelligent people Who are they and how can we find them? Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to be aware of your own feelings and those of another person. It allows you to understand your feelings and to use your understanding as a guide for decisions and actions. It…

“It’s not fair,” a phase usually repeated by children as they stomp their feet and turn away. But lately there is a great deal of stomping and yelling, “It’s not fair” by adults. And I will admit, I am the Queen of fairness. I hate unfair treatment and injustice. My dad was clear. You play…

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I often talk about what it takes to build healthy relationships. But perhaps another question is, what does it take to derail a relationship? How do you push someone away? In other words, what contributes to becoming a bad partner?  Here are 10 points to consider. They are…

Blame. We hear it on a daily basis now. No matter what you listen to or watch, someone is blaming someone for something. Frankly, I am tired of it. It is exhausting in the national discourse and it certainly doesn’t work in relationships. When relationships falter, look for signs of blame. Highly defensive people blame…

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