Doing Life Together

You know you need to clean up that garage or extra bedroom. Your intentions are good. However, it hasn’t gotten done and your partner has had enough. You feel bad too because you fully intended to get get the job done. Well, maybe the 15.4 million views on TikTok are on to something. Videos abound…

Have you ever felt ignored in your relationship? Has life gotten in the way and you aren’t spending time with your partner? Well, you are not alone. This is what we call a common relationship problem, meaning it happens to many couples. Recently, I did a radio show/podcast on this topic and wanted to mention…

It’s built in us. We don’t like injustice or unfair treatment. So we tend to judge those around us or in the news.  But it is clear that the Bible instructs us, ”Do not judge or you too will be judged.” So how do we walk out this verse from Matthew 7 in everyday life?…

During a couple therapy session, I noticed the wife kept looking at her husband every time I asked her a question. She was hesitant to speak and would glance his way before answering.  He clearly dominated the direction of the session. He was controlling her answers to my questions by looks and glances to intimidate…

There is a bad habit that can hurt your relationship. It’s called phubbing, a made up word from the combination of phone + snubbing.  Simply put, it is snubbing someone who is looking or talking on their cell phone. It happens all the time but creates negative feelings when it involves other people. You might…

If you’ve lived long enough, you have had what has been called, a “dark night of the soul.” You know, those times in life when we endure difficult or painful seasons and God seems silent. During those times, we can easily feel alone. Books have been written on this topic dating back to the early…

Couples come to therapy with this complaint. I do nice things for my spouse, but it doesn’t seem to matter. She doesn’t even notice. I don’t get it. Honestly, they usually don’t get it. They fail to see that prior negativity in the relationship cancels out the good when it happens. I know that doesn’t…

Recently, I was on a radio show and the host wanted to talk about “sleep divorce.” To be honest, it was not a term I was familiar with, but it certainly did pique my interest. So I looked it up and then was concerned. First let’s talk first about the importance of good sleep as…

I am so tired of my boss. He is impossible and ridiculously demanding. Every day, we encounter people who are difficult. How we respond to them matters for not only our mental health, but theirs. You don’t want to escalate tension and conflict or be a jerk in return. So, here are 10 tips to…

When was the last time you had a good fight with someone you care about? That’s right, two people in a relationship are going to fight from time to time, even if the relationship is healthy. But the point is, are you fighting fair? The way disagreements and conflicts are handled can be helpful or…

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