Doing Life Together

I love coffee. The first thing I do in the darkness of the morning is make a cup and sit quietly to begin the day. Just the smell of coffee brewing makes me happy. That first cup is my moment to transition from rest to begin my day. It’s a time to meditate and pray,…

A 50-year-old female comes to my office with a 10-year-history of major depression. She is chronically depressed and doesn’t  feel medication is that helpful. She wants to explore other ways to feel better. In fact, there are around 37 different antidepressants used in the United States and they don’t work for everyone. Furthermore, it is…

  In my 30 years of working with people in therapy, I have seen the power of forgiveness set people free. An adult child who was sexually abused, a wife betrayed by a husband, a teen whose addicted father beat him, a parent who lost a child from a drunk driver…the list could do on…

A cell phone started ringing in the middle of a couple’s wedding. The minister who was marrying the couple was not amused. As he started chiding the congregation about turning off their phones, he realized it was his cell that had been ringing. Oops. It’s that time of year when wedding stories are the topic of many…

It’s always nice when studies support what we know is best for people to flourish. When it comes to sexuality, people are not flourishing despite what you see and hear from media. Sexual hurt and wounding are common in clinical practice. In part, this hurt is due to believing several myths that have become culturally…

Are you ready for this There is a new trend gaining some traction. It’s called Sologomy or autogamy, or, self-marriage. Whichever term you choose, it literally means you marry yourself. It is supposed to be a symbolic ceremony where you commit to maintaining a meaningful, deep, and loving relationship with yourself. The goal is to…

Happy Father’s Day! I know not everyone has a great relationship with their father. However, this Father’s Day, I encourage you to think about your dad and find at least one thing he gave you as a gift. Was there a lesson you learned that has impacted who you are today? Some will think of…

When someone says, “I am having  a nervous breakdown,” do you know what they mean? “Nervous breakdown” isn’t a medical term. Most often it refers to becoming physical or emotionally overwhelmed related to life stress. You “break down” under the pressure and are not functioning like your normal self. You may have heard someone refer…

Have you ever been surrounded by people, but still felt lonely? It’s not a good feeling and, interestingly, not always easy to identify. Loneliness develops when you experience a gap between the connections you want or desire and the connections you have. In other words, you realize you lack meaningful relationships in your life. This…

Those of us who went to college did some stupid things. Sometimes they were silly, even foolish. But a new craziness has emerged that’s simply dangerous behavior that should concern everyone. You know it’s “hot” when it’s trending on social media, especially TikTok. It is called the BORG. And no, I am not talking about…

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