Doing Life Together

Be anxious about nothing! For over 40 million people, living this directive is not easy. Anxiety seems to be a part of modern life. And anxiety often has its companion, worry, close at hand. In my book, Letting Go of Worry, I explain that worry is the mental part of anxiety. To let go of…

Sometimes I think I have a hyper-active fairness gene. I become quite upset when people suffer injustice or unfair treatment. When that happens, my tendency is to judge. But I have learned to be careful with instant moves to judgment. Why? Because there is a fine line between judging someone and standing up for what…

Recently we moved to another state and had to start over finding friends, a church, doctors, repair people and all the things you take for granted when you lived somewhere for a while. Moving is challenging. You quickly realize the loss of community and the need to belong. This universal need to belong goes all…

Most of us need a little push or help to do hard things. When it comes to motivating yourself to make change, it can be a struggle. Change is hard work. We often have good intentions to change but get busy and distracted. Or we don’t want to face the reality that change is needed.…

So many of us have the goal to lose a few pounds. But we all know that losing weight is not the easiest thing to do. Most often, we need extra motivation to make life changes. We also know how important exercise is for so many health and mental health conditions. Yet, here we are…

Many of my friends are dealing with aging parents and teenagers. They are part of what is known as the sandwich generation. Not only are they running teens to soccer, dance, and a plethora of activities, but also running to nephrologists, cardiologists and pain management specialists. In other words, they are managing and caring for…

If you’ve ever struggled with anxiety, you know how distressing and debilitating it can be. While anxiety is one of the most common mental health problems, numbers have been rising since the pandemic. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), both anxiety and depression grew by 25% during the pandemic. The stress of isolation, working…

Are you ever going to take out the trash? Can you get off your phone and pay attention to me? How many times do I have to tell you to stop at the store and pick up milk?   Do you bristle just hearing these questions? If so, they just might remind you of nagging.…

“I heard Tracy slept with that boy from our science class. She will do anything for attention.” “Did you hear that the neighbor was having an affair with the worker who is remodeling her house? ” “No I didn’t. Tell me more.” Gossip is more than idle chatter. It can ruin the life of someone.…

I teach couples how to deal with relationship conflict. The essence of all good conflict strategies is listening without becoming defensive. This is precisely why we struggle so much with a loss of civil discourse in our country. I also teach medical students. I am not alone when I say something has dramatically changed in…

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