Doing Life Together

Do you compare yourself to other people? Most likely- Yes! Hey, we all belong to the sisterhood of the traveling dissatisfied pants. Comparisons are easy to do in this saturated media environment in which we live. Years ago, I wrote a book, Making Peace with Your Thigh, based on how difficult it is to be…

No one likes to be depressed.  Yet over 17 million adults have had at least one depressive episode. The voice of depression says you cannot move out of the darkness blanketing your life. However, nothing could be further from the truth. There is much you can do to lift yourself out of that stuck place. First,…

When you have been hurt by someone in a significant way, the last thing you want to do is bless them. More of what comes to mind is how can you hurt them back, give them a dose of their own medicine or take revenge. That is our natural and instinctual response. But if you…

When it comes to weight loss, most of us could drop a few pounds. But we all know how hard it is to actually lose the weight. One of the culprits to achieving our goals is snacking. So here is a quick tip on something you may not know. The time of day you eat…

Situation comedies are the worst when it comes to portraying relationships. Typically we see the “I don’t have a clue” husband whose wife is constantly telling him what to do. While we may laugh at this comedy routine, there is nothing funny about it in real life. No one likes to be belittled and told…

It sure seems like anger is the emotion of the day. People are angry about masks, injustice, work demands, elections, relationship issues, and more. And that anger is stoked by social media and media. Anger and outrage are the top  news stories of the day. It seems there is much to be outraged about. While…

It happens to all of us. Someone treats us unfairly. It hurts. We don’t like it and want to retaliate.  But how we respond to unfair treatment matters. It reveals our heart. And we may not like what we see. Thanks to a recent event, I got to test myself in this area once again.…

Jack and Jenna came to couple therapy to get help for their very unhappy relationship.The problem was, they didn’t really want the help. They wanted me to validate their decision to break up. It took only a few minutes to see their dysfunctional patterns of interaction. The path to their unhappiness was predictable. In my…

True confession. I am a coffee lover. Ever since my college days, I learned to love coffee. I was too poor to afford cream or sugar in those days so I drank it black. Looking back, I had terrible coffee habits when studying for exams. Some nights I would drink up to 10 cups cramming…

Two moms are at the park watching their preschoolers play. One child hands a toy truck to his friend and says, “Here, you can play with it.” The other hangs on to his toy car for dear life. When his friend asks to share it, he stubbornly says, “No! It’s mine!” and jerks his hands…

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