Doing Life Together

Megan was anxious. She interviewed for a new job and was sure she wouldn’t get it. When I asked her why she felt this way, she interpreted the interviewer’s reactions to her as negative, “I could just tell she didn’t like me. She looked bored. She looked at me like she was judging me.” Megan’s…

I am blessed. I loved my dad and love my husband who is the best dad. So Happy Father’s Day to all the dads! But I realize that on this day when we honor dads, not everyone feels the same. There are dads who abuse, neglect and hurt their children. Other dads are mentally ill…

The minute something negative happens, it is so easy to be discouraged and think negative thoughts. We get called into the boss’ office and immediately think we are in trouble. Or our elderly parent calls us at a 9:00p.m. and we know something is terribly wrong. Our teen is late for curfew and we think there has…

Ben had a terrible anger problem. His rage stemmed from living with an abusive father who criticized and belittled him as a child. As an adult, Ben hates the way his anger seems to unleash itself at his wife. He sought therapy to help identify the hot buttons for his anger and learn strategies for…

Have you ever wondered why some people struggle with mental health more than others? Two people can go through the same experience and one copes well and the other does not?  The answer has to do with our genetics, temperament and life experiences. All of these contribute to differences in how we function as adults.…

Rejection! Not an easy pill to swallow! It’s over. I don’t want to see you again. Those words sting whether it’s from a relationship, a job, a college admission or related to a spot on the team. Rejection tests our feelings of self-worth. Poorly managed, it can lead to depression and anxiety. When you experience…

Healthy relationships are all about feeling safe and secure. We want to know that no matter what, our relationships won’t fall apart. We want to know that our partner has our back and is committed for the long haul. But how does this happen? Or maybe, why doesn’t it happen? At the heart of all…

Memorial Day is more than a long weekend to play. Yes, it is a three-day weekend and the grills will fire up. And we certainly need some celebration after a very difficult year of loss. But it is a day we recognize those who have died while serving in our armed forces. Honestly, it’s not a day of…

As a national speaker, people often come up to me after I speak and say something like, “That was the best talk of the night.” Or, “I think you were the best speaker.” Now, it sounds like a compliment and I take it that way. So thank you for your kind words!. But is it…

When you hear a piece of news, do you think of the worse possible outcome? Are you that person who thinks the world is ending every time you hear about climate change? Or maybe when the doctor tells you that you have an irregular mole, you immediately think it is cancer? Or how about when…

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