Doing Life Together

When we were in Cozumel Mexico on a vacation with our children, our son wanted to buy a little trinket for a friend. He was browsing in the store and the shop owners were following him and talking about him in Spanish. The only reason we knew this was because my husband was with our…

Caution: The baby is this photo is politically incorrect. Her gender is stereotyped in pink. Stories now abound in the news about parents who” bravely” decide to raise their children gender neutral. They don’t reveal the gender of their child to anyone and they don’t teach their children to associate their body parts with either gender.…

                              You’ve been dating this guy. He seems really nice. He tells you he owns a dog. Is this more than a nice fact about his life? Yes, you can learn a lot about a person in terms of his pet relationship.…

Three mass shootings in eight days. The latest marks the 251st mass shooting in 2019; more  than the number of days in this year. A mass shooting is defined as an incident in which at least four people are shot, excluding the shooter. As violence increases, we are desperate for answers. Depending on who you…

One of the most common questions I am asked has to do with taking an antidepressant for depression. People wonder if it is wrong for a person of faith to rely on medication. Before I answer, we need to be careful not to judge people as to why they take medication. There are many reasons people may…

Where is God when it hurts? This is the title of one of the many Philip Yancey books I read years ago. And today I am thinking about this title again. Friends of mine have a teenage son who just had 6 hours of surgery to remove bone cancer from his arm. Their family is strong in…

Worry is something we try not to do, but are not always successful. We know it is not good for us, so why do we do it? Actually, there are many reasons. We may falsely believe worry serves a purpose, stops bad things from happening, prepares us for the worst outcome possible, allows us to control…

John regularly uses pornography. He wonders if he is addicted or is developing an addiction. The Head of the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), Dr. Norma Volkow, supports the inclusion of sexual addictions, with pornography as a contributor to the larger field of addictions. Volkow and colleagues describe a three-stage model of neurobiochemical addiction. The three…

What happens to you in childhood matters. It doesn’t determine your life course, but does influence it. Adverse childhood experiences can derail you in adult life if you aren’t aware and learn new ways to respond. One adverse childhood experience is being raised by narcissistic parents. The impact can be long-lasting and affect your adult…

I want you to try something. Put a black dot on a white piece of paper. Now, look at the piece of paper and tell me what you see. Did you focus on that black dot in the center of the page? Or did you think about all the white space surrounding the dot? Where…

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