Doing Life Together

Divorce. Remarriage. Lots of change is involved and kids feel it! Jason stared at the floor, angry and frustrated. Sitting in my therapy office, a new hurdle confronts this shy fourteen year-old. His mom is about to remarry. Two years ago dad walked out. No phone calls, visits or contact. Dad moved out of state…

“I can’t stand it when I make a mistake.” Ahhh…the words of a perfectionist. How do you know if you are one? Well, check yourself against this list. If you believe there is no room for mistakes, time to check that thinking and stop worrying about failure. In fact, purposely make a mistake and allow…

This green-eyed monster  has nothing to do with St. Patrick’s Day. It’s envy and doesn’t do well when it consumes our thoughts or actions. Wishing you had what your neighbor has, or feeling envious over someone’s job or spouse is a pain of wanting something you don’t have. And it is easy to feel green…

Tom is a healthy 26-year-old male who recently married and is struggling in his sex life due to the influence of pornography.  Although he and his wife attend church, Tom is one of the 64-to 68% of young adult men who uses pornography at least once a week (Covenant Eyes). During college, Tom used pornography to address his…

Relationships can be difficult. Some people are difficult because they are constantly suspicious and mistrust others. Every little thing that is said or done is more evidence for why they need to be paranoid or suspicious. Usually people with paranoia have difficulty being intimate in relationships and stay emotionally detached. They have enemies, mainly because…

Let’s just admit it, talking about sex with a teen is necessary but uncomfortable for most people. Yet, these important conversations can impact a teen’s life. So let’s look at 4 myths that usual get in the way of helpful conversation around issues of sexuality. Myth #1: Talking about sex will make it more likely…

A child struggling with weight issues has to face an unsympathetic world–one steeped in the idolatry of the body, glamorizing thinness at all costs. “Thin is in” and the pressure to conform is enormous. When your body doesn’t measure up, the reminders are everywhere. Social rejection is not an easy pill to swallow. The stigma…

Coaching is popular today. People hire coaches for all kinds of reasons related to achieving personal or professional goals. When you have a desired outcome, a coach can partner with you to achieve that outcome. Here is an example: Kelly knows she wants to lose weight, but fears her husband will sabotage her dieting attempts…

Mom always said, “Eat your vegetables!” Was she on to something? Apparently so, as certain vegetables may be not only be good for your eyes, but also good for your brain! Have you ever said, “I wish I knew then, what I know now?” Wisdom comes with age–at least that is the hope. And that aging…

It’s a common saying, “You need to take better care of yourself?” Or “Exercise a little self-care and you will feel better.” But I find many people are unable to do this, or are uncomfortable with the idea–either they feel there is too much emphasis on the self or that self-care is a selfish focus.…

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