Doing Life Together

Candace and Mike haven’t had sex in over a month. And neither is talking about it. Candace and Mike are like many couples who suffer in silence, never bringing up the issue of boredom or inattention to their sexual lives. When Candace and Mike began to talk, they knew what they had to do to…

Convictions are those fixed and firm beliefs we hold true. These days, they are hard to talk about without being accused of being intolerant. Holding firm to a belief now means you are judgmental, narrow minded, maybe even hateful or bigoted. For example, when someone stands by a conviction on social media, the claws come out,…

It’s an age-old problem, but not one we may not recognize. Gender matters when it comes to marriage. Needs differ in terms of their priorities and focus. Take a recent situation with Julie and Ray who have been married for 6 years. Julie is upset that her boss overlooked her for a promotion. She wants…

It’s a common complaint, “I can’t be me in this relationship. Ive lost myself and don’t know who I am.”  But is it true that the other person defines you? Balancing Our Individuality Finding a balance between our individuality and our intimate connections takes some work. It requires getting a good handle on who we…

Kathy had never seen a therapist before her husband announced he was having an affair with another woman. The shock of his disclosure was enormous. She repeatedly asked herself, “How could I have missed the signs and been so naïve? Have I been in denial of our marital problems?” Kathy didn’t consider herself prone to…

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. You still have one more day to plan a romantic and exciting day or night. But you need to give it some thought now. Be my valentine needs to be exciting, not boring! It’s easy to fall into the trap of doing the standard dinner out, flowers and candy. While all of that is…

You can walk in a room, have a conversation and know if someone is a narcissist. How is that possible? Is it really that easy.? Researchers at Ohio State University say, “Yes.” They have discovered the quickest way to tell if someone is a narcissist. Are you ready? Simply ask them. According to Brad Bushman,…

Rick was tempted. He was going through a marital crisis. According to him, his wife was cold and distant. When a colleague at the office provided a listening ear, Rick found himself attracted. The more time he spent with this woman, the closer the two became. He even prayed with this woman for God to…

People often ask, “Are you walking in your calling?” The answer depends on an understanding of what it means to be called of God. In recent years we have witnessed a record number of ministers who have fallen or left ministry. We’ve seen egos out of control, infidelity, divorce, pornography, entitlement in the pulpit, pastors…

Everyone likes to win. But during the football playoffs and Superbowl, some people need to get a grip! These are only games people! Big games, but only games! Yes, I get intense during those games too, but when time runs out and a winner is declared, it’s time to be a gracious fan. What does…

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