John and Mary had a fight. It was intense and neither is speaking to each other. Their relationship is suffering. Can they fix this? Both said some awful things and now feelings are hurt. They aren’t talking. But, they can fix this if they practice a skill that healthy couples use–relationship repair. Relationship repair is important because…

Jill was fed up with her mom. Her solution? Cut off the relationship so she could be her own person. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard, “I don’t want to talk to my family (substitute anyone else here). They are toxic and impossible to deal with–it’s better if I just leave and have…

When Sharon talked to me, she was at her wits end with her friend, Ann. Ann is moody, unstable and easily upset. When Ann is upset, she has an intensity that makes Sharon uncomfortable. Ann’s angry outbursts often result in threats to leave the friendship or to do something impulsive. People like Ann are difficult…

Mary and Bill are arguing again. Mary hates how she feels when conflict happens. She wants to retreat, run or hide, or simply  avoid. Too often, she chooses to avoid, but is this a good idea? For the most part, NO, at least when we are talking interpersonal relationships that are trying to grow in…

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