Rick and Sue announced their marital separation. As we talked, I asked, “Have you ever been to a couple’s therapist to try and work out your problems?” Their answer, “Yes, we tried, it didn’t work.” “Can you give me a few details?” “Well we went one time when we decided to separate. The therapist wanted to see us individually but…

People struggling in a marriage either wait too long to get relationship help or refuse help. Yet, we know how to help marriages headed to divorce. But there are 3 preconditions necessary to do the hard work of resurrecting a dying marriage or bringing problems to the forefront to be helped. Here are those preconditions: 1) Consider…

My husband and I are separating and we have two grade-school age children, grades one and three. How do we tell them what is going to happen? Both of us agree we should probably do it together but don’t know what to say. I am sorry to hear that you are separating and hope you…

Question: My ten-old-daughter refuses to talk to her new stepdad at meals and will not listen to him when he gives her directions. This is causing tension in our house. I have been divorced for three years and my daughter sees her father every weekend. She has made it clear that she doesn’t want my…

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