Holly couldn’t quite pinpoint the reason, but whenever she found herself in emotionally charged situations, she felt an overwhelming urge to escape. Conflict and negativity were triggers she instinctively avoided. Through therapy, she discovered that this aversion stemmed from her upbringing—her parents had consistently overlooked her fundamental emotional needs. The term “emotional neglect” is one…

Megan (not her real name) told me, “I am strict, but not too strict. Yes, I do expect a lot from my children and can be demanding at times. I push for things to be done right. But my husband says I am a perfectionist and require too much from our family.” The more I…

It’s been quite the week and I admit, there were moments when I felt overwhelmed. Work deadlines were relentless. Family issues needed to be attended to and there was little time to exercise self-care. But what happens when you allow a rigorous pace to get the best of you? Mentally, you are slower, sometimes forgetful or even…

We tend to think that having high expectations for ourselves or even other people is a good thing, but is it? John always wanted to go to medical school, but felt like no one ever guided him towards that goal. So when he saw his daughter do well in biology and chemistry, he decided to…

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