After decades of being told such things like “reach for the
stars,” “you can do anything,” and “you can have it all!” from an
all-pervasive consumer advertising-driven culture, perhaps it’s time to
rethink those ideas.  A lot of us are realizing that pushing ourselves
so hard to have it all, may not be the best life plan.  Getting into big
debt, some of us spending over our heads and beyond what is affordable,
we may have bought a lot of material goods like great houses, fancy
cars, and giant flat-screen TV’s but it’s also cost a lot of our
income.  Fine dining, gourmet cuisine and a lot of restaurant visits may
have tasted good at the time, but now we have giant gourmet waistlines,
challenging our self-image and even compromising our health.  When it
comes down to it – when we are healthy and satisfied, we “have it all.”

Consider
this today:  instead of wanting what you don’t have, try enjoying
what you already do have.  Think about the positives in yourself,
and in your life, without focusing on what’s not there, or what you
don’t possess.

Today’s action: While thinking of what’s good in
your life, and what you already have, write your positive attributes on a
piece of paper, or in a journal.  Ask yourself, and note the goods,
“what about me is really good, and fine?”  It may be that you are nice
looking, have a great smile, caring, responsible, energetic,
compassionate, and loving.  Write anything that comes to mind.

Next,
think about what you have that’s right and fine and make a list of
positive possessions.  Do you have a roof over your head, and shelter? 
Many people in this world do not. We’re very fortunate it we do.  Do you
have clothes to wear, to protect you from the elements?  Do you have
books to read, a TV, a computer?  Do you have a car or public
transportation to get places? A bed to sleep in at night? Everything
counts, little or big.

This is an exercise (yes, I used the
dreaded word) to remind you that you already have a lot of good in your
life.  I hope it will remind you that it is possible to be satisfied
from the position you are in: with what you have and what you do.  You
might even experience moments of satisfaction with who you are.  Just as
you are.

Now, take a meditative moment to reflect on and
contemplate all the good about yourself, and in your life.  Ponder your
list. Once feeling centered, stress-free and appreciative, say a silent
prayer (or out loud is even better) thanking God for all that is.

We’d
love to hear what’s good and satisfying in your life.  Please write a
comment below, and tell us about what you appreciate and have, instead
of what you don’t.

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This article originally ran in October, 2008.  Click here to take a look at the comments posted back then.