There is no such thing as “constructive criticism.” All criticism is destructive.

If we are criticized by others, or critical of ourselves, we focus on things that are painful and difficult. That’s not a good place to start if we want to make changes.

By focusing on what’s good and right we have a much better starting point then if we attack and tear down. After all, everyone needs to be valued and feel worthy, no
matter what we have done or are.

If we are criticized, the first impulse is to defend ourselves. We’re so busy defending our ego and attempting to prove that we are worthy, the whole process gets undermined.

By affirming and finding what’s right and good, and then identifying desired challenges areas of growth — we can begin to really make true and positive change that are far more lasting.

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