How can I miss it? Plastered all over the news, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are getting a divorce. But, a lot of people are getting divorced. Moore and Kutcher had 6 protracted years, plenty of time to get bored of one another, bicker over finances, and become weary of asking, “Will you please give me all of your attention and make me happy.” I have no idea who Ashton Kutcher is, but I did see Demi Moore once in a movie called, umm, okay I forgot the title, but in the film, Moore portrayed a soldier in training and she appeared pretty darn tough, so what happened with the marriage? Boot camp, marriage, same thing.

These camps generally include high-intensity exercises meant to motivate and push people to learn how to collaborate and yet perform outstandingly as an individual. The key is to have a mission, something important like fighting for the nation’s freedom or raising a family or for the simple reason to love one another.

Divorce only comes as a big surprise to those who believe marriage was the finishing touch to freedom, family, or love. There is no finishing touch. Freedom, family, and love go on forever and ever and we have to fight for them because the human ego, the habit to blame others for our problems, and the tendency to manipulate others to fit whacked-out expectations, are constantly complicating the situation.

In my 28 year marriage, there have been times when I wanted to leave, but when I exercise spirituality—hope, faith, empathy, wisdom—the fear, dread, willfulness, and anger self-fade.

From Science and Health, “Exercise the power of intelligence, to displace unintelligent behavior. The application of spiritual intelligence can also cause threatening situations to self-destruct.”