Do you take out your mood on other people?

Chances are if you do few people will actually tell you.

People tend to not want to take on difficult personalities. Instead, depending on their emotional healthiness they will either walk out of your world, ignore your words, attach your words to themselves, try to fix your world, enable your bad behavior and so on. 

For this reason, people do tend to get away with taking out their moods on others either in friendship, the office or relationships.

A healthy person will have personal boundaries and realize they do not deserve to repeatedly be on the receiving end of another individuals angst. They will distance themselves from a friend, quit the job or end the relationship.

The like-minded, equally difficult personality will either ignore or move on because there isn’t enough room for two alphas.

The enabling personality will stay in the friendship, the workplace or the relationship too long. They will continue to allow moods to hit them like a missile while making excuses for the one who fired it at them.

The enabler will say things such as…

I know they are moody but they are a good person.

I know they are stressed but their boss is putting pressure on them.

They are having personal problems.

Bottom line?

All people deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

5 Reasons You Should Never Inflict Your Mood on Others:

1. It’s Arrogant:

It is extremely arrogant to feel entitled to take our stress, pain, anger, frustration, sadness or any other negative emotion out on others. It is akin to saying ‘I am more important than you are’ or ‘My pain is more important than you are.’

2. It’s Immature:

It is the toddler in the supermarket throwing themselves on the floor in a thunderous tantrum. When we grow up we mature enough to understand every single human being has individual problems and stressors and we need to deal with them. We need to learn adult ways to cope with our issues. We need to talk about them, exercise, go to counseling, slow our lives down, get out of a bad relationship, quit the unfulfilling job, etc. Whatever it takes to handle our own personal lives in the best manner.

3. It’s Abusive:

It is absolutely abusive to believe another individual deserves to be on the receiving end of our pain. It is essentially turning them into a human punching bag. A place to reactively thrust our own hurt and frustrations. There’s never an excuse for repeatedly bad behavior. Especially when it results in emotionally abusive behavior towards another human being.

4. It’s Transferring:

Taking out our moods on others is passing the negative baton to the next individual. This ball of hurt, anger, frustration, and/or sadness is transferred to someone who never deserved it. Additionally, it makes an overly caring person, aka the enabler, pleaser or fixer morph into an overly responsible mode. They now take on the moody person’s problems and exhaust themselves by figuring out ways to fix it, please them enough to counteract the mood or continue to put up with the abusive behavior.

5. It’s Disrespectful:

Respect is essentially getting out of our own world enough to respect the world of others. Respect recognizes every person’s life is not exactly the same nor should it be. It’s a mature awareness of how others deserve to be treated. Hence, individuals should be met with respect and kindness. A humble interaction between two human beings. They should not be beaten and dragged into another person’s emotional warzone.

We can’t change people but we can establish self-protection and personal boundaries.

Do not put up with someone who has a continued habit of taking out their moods on others.

Move on or establish healthy parameters for the friendship, job or relationship.

And yes, there are a lot of good people who take out their moods on persons they know and love. However, there is a difference between good people and good behavior. A nice person can still be capable of bad behavior. All human beings can. The difference is how aware an individual is of how they treat others, the self-responsibility and accountability they take for their own behavior and if the bad behavior/moods are fairly constant.

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