I just read a post on a Facebook page I love and follow – Godwinks. If you haven’t checked out the series of ten Godwinks books penned by New York Times Bestselling author SQuire Rushnell you should. You will find Rushnell’s stories spiritually intoxicating.  In fact, upon reading When God Winks at You: How God…

The truth?  We all have baggage. It’s inevitable. That’s part of the beauty of relationships. We find refuge in another imperfect person and our joint baggage just works well together. The emotional yin to our yang. But some baggage should never be claimed. The stakes of relationship success are already high enough. They do not…

When you are willing to share the messy side of life – your own worries, fears, mistakes, and heartache… Other people feel safe confiding in you. Just yesterday, I was chatting with someone experiencing divorce and the topic of stress and anxiety surfaced. Here’s the thing. Worry and anxiety are extremely misunderstood and therefore people…

Relationships are incredibly complex.  There are so very many things which can make or break them.  And this pertains to all shapes and sizes of relationships – romantic, friendship, work, etc. However, there are things which can improve their chances. One significant element in fact. As a former business columnist, a publisher once asked me…

There is divorce and there is extreme divorce. Extreme divorce is lengthy, involves emotional and financial abuse, punishment, using or confusing children, and overall bullying behavior.  Extreme divorce should be illegal but instead, it is seen as the acceptable behavior of men behaving badly. Essentially, it can involve as much if not more control as…

Divorces come in all shapes and sizes. But threads of the same universal truths exist in most of them. The loss, the devastation, the inexplicable shame, the uncertainty, the worry, the stress, the isolation, and the pain. In short, an emotional mouth full.  And worse, for some misplaced notion of failure many can never fully…

Do you take out your mood on other people? Chances are if you do few people will actually tell you. People tend to not want to take on difficult personalities. Instead, depending on their emotional healthiness they will either walk out of your world, ignore your words, attach your words to themselves, try to fix…

I wrote my last column about the day I stopped liking myself. In a nutshell – my relationship broke. And I got lost in someone else. Or as the classic quote goes – “Be careful when trying to fix a broken person you may cut yourself on their shattered pieces.” The bigger the problems got…

I remember near the beginning of my divorce chatting with an old friend. “I don’t feel very good about myself,” I said. “I never knew a Colleen who was anything but confident,” he replied. But there was in fact, a day I stopped liking myself.  Worse, I can pinpoint exactly when it started yet at…

There are some really great guys in this world. The problem is we don’t always attract ourselves to them.  And no, this does not mean they are perfect – none of us are. This simply means they are truly good people. The kind of individuals who will have more of the ability to love and…

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