There is divorce and there is extreme divorce. Extreme divorce is lengthy, involves emotional and financial abuse, punishment, using or confusing children, and overall bullying behavior.  Extreme divorce should be illegal but instead, it is seen as the acceptable behavior of men behaving badly. Essentially, it can involve as much if not more control as…

Divorces come in all shapes and sizes. But threads of the same universal truths exist in most of them. The loss, the devastation, the inexplicable shame, the uncertainty, the worry, the stress, the isolation, and the pain. In short, an emotional mouth full.  And worse, for some misplaced notion of failure many can never fully…

I remember near the beginning of my divorce chatting with an old friend. “I don’t feel very good about myself,” I said. “I never knew a Colleen who was anything but confident,” he replied. But there was in fact, a day I stopped liking myself.  Worse, I can pinpoint exactly when it started yet at…

I am forever indebted to my mom. Anyone who has been raised by a single parent can attest to the devotion and loyalty you feel to the parent who was constantly physically, emotionally and financially available to you. As a young adult, I carried a significant pang that I lost her before I could repay…

Really? How do two people make divorce look like a fairy tale? Or rather THE very BEST Christmas PRESENT Ever??!! There’s a reason we can’t get enough of Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton. Just watching them perform You Make It Feel Like Christmas will melt the heart of any would-be divorce cynic. The light in Gwen Stefani’s…

Like the rest of this fast-paced digital world, I am in the habit of saving my fav reads for a later date while I zip through my email in delete mode.  And then I wait for the perfect day to catch up – just me, a cup of tea and my girls Hazel and Phyllis lounging…

I remember the day I sat in my marriage counselor’s office and through the tears, kleenex and runny mascara blurted out… Why is God doing this to me? Wow, now looking back, I can’t believe those words ever came out of my mouth! Can you say, victim? In my defense, I was losing my family.…

Let’s be honest, pretty much any individual who has experienced the horrors of a broken relationship has at some point felt like a victim. And divorce is about as broken as a relationship can get. Therefore, even those who admirably hold their heads the highest have soaked enough pillows to water a whole garden variety…

People seem to believe there are sides in a divorce. In actuality, there are not. I know what you’re thinking, bear with me. First, let me preface this by saying no mature, confident adult expects another human being to take sides. What they do expect is sincere friendship.  And friends who see the situation accurately…

Just when your life is moving forward you (me) do something stupid like watch a cute young couple’s wedding video. Takes me back to the day I sat in my car only weeks into my divorce listening to my honeymoon song. Really? Why didn’t I just change the radio station??!! But noooooo, I just had…

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