On August 27th, 1988 I never imagined this would be how I’d spend my 29th wedding anniversary. And certainly, August 13th, 2013 when I retained a divorce attorney, I never would have believed I’d still be married on this particular day. Yet, here I am. The irony is not lost on me. That I am…

I sip my coffee while perusing emails at what friends refer to as my office, aka, the local coffee shop. A big group enters and makes their way to a table. I realize it’s a bunch of teachers from my children’s elementary school. I can’t wait to greet them. These people that I love from…

It’s politically incorrect to miss my husband. And believe me, I do NOT miss the ‘him’ of today. I just miss ‘him.’ The person I thought I knew. The guy who made my world feel safe – watched The Notebook with me – and listened to my deepest fears and greatest hopes. I miss ‘him’ –…

I believe in praying for everything.  I am, after all,  the girl who once wrote a column entitled, The Day This Catholic Girl Prayed for Chick fil A. Albeit a humorous moment I was, in fact, hungry and there’s nothing like their chicken sandwich. I’ve written about this before. The controversy over what we believe we can and can’t…

Four years ago today, I charged into an attorney’s office determined to begin again. Hindsight is twenty twenty as they say. As we all know, I couldn’t have been more naive. But I was gutsy and I was strong and my children’s well-being gave me the additional courage I needed. As my sister once said…

I once heard the average unhappily married person considers leaving at least ten times before they actually do. Personally, I think the number is probably much higher. Marriage is a huge commitment which most people take very seriously. Hence, why people fail to leave when they first instinctually feel the relationship cannot be repaired. Of…

I am at a bit of a crossroads.  Waiting to take that next leap of faith – the new direction my life will be leaning towards. When this divorce will once and for all be finalized. No, when I can free this broken relationship which got caught in the proverbial door.  One that I have…

I’ve had a few people ask me if writing about divorce keeps me stuck. It’s a really good question. On the contrary, writing about divorce is the one place I feel in control in an out of control divorce. It is cathartic and empowering to open my heart about a topic, many fear to talk…

Narcissism is a buzz word – casually thrown around by many. However, ask anyone who has been involved with a narcissist and they will tell you the brutality of this personality disorder. Ask them what compounds it and they will more than likely respond…Society’s response. Narcissism is the Wild West of mental health disorders. It is,…

Can you rescue someone? This question is raised time and time again by individuals who reach out to me. They just don’t phrase it this way. I have written about this often because rescuers refuse to believe the answer is no.  Sure, as in all things there are exceptions to the rule and every enabler…

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