A controlling relationship is exhausting. Are you in one? 8 Questions to ask yourself about whether or not your spouse is controlling you? 1. Do they get mad at you for little things? Relationships shouldn’t be built around one of the individuals perpetually being mad at the other. Of course, this can happen when one…

I walk through the grocery store. I grab a few things and I make my way to the express lane. My friend “Munkee” stands in line before me. “So, how are things going for you Colleen?” he asks. “You know what?” I say. “I’m good. Talking less and smiling more!” “Sounds like a bumper sticker,”…

I pull the dresser drawer and dump the contents onto the floor. I pull another drawer and dump and another and another. I stare at the pile of clothing and assorted things. I am on the umpteenth purge of my old life. Only I have forgotten what this old dresser holds. It is a gorgeous…

I remember the day my friend turned to me and said, “Colleen, no one person tried any harder than you to save your marriage. You can find peace that you left no stone unturned.” No one wants their children to experience divorce. It is ugly, it is disillusioning and it is life changing. I hope…

My heart was so broken and empty after twenty some years of marriage that I didn’t think I would ever believe in trusting someone with it again. I am not saying that I am anywhere near that now, just that I am beginning to feel open to the possibility. One of the best lessons that…

I sit with friends in the coffee shop. We share a few really great laughs. I realize two things have magically returned to my life. A fairly, constant smile once again accompanies my face. A natural ‘joie de vivre’ is creeping back into my life. And… A sense of peace. I no longer feel hurt…

I change into a black smock and find my way to the chair. My hairstylist grabs a section of my hair and some foil. We laugh as she begins the process. TODAY, I am getting a blue streak laced within my dark brown hair. It’s my year. My re-entry. My take back. My comeback. My…

I am a bit nervous this morning. I am on the way to meet a friend. We have a few too many, obvious parallels and instead of feeling this is helpful, it makes me sad. I never, ever, want to see a heart hurt again. Let alone one that would never have the ability to…

My car nurses a flat tire, so I decide that this combined with Friday gives me license to crawl through my morning. I typically write in silence (unless I am at my fave coffee shop), but I turn on the Today Show. It’s a full, two cups of coffee kinda day so I am easily…

I am on Facebook chatting with my friend. I realize we have a friend in common. So I waste no time letting her know this ‘small world’ happy coincidence. Only my friend, I’ll call her “Aspen” reminds me that I have actually, already had this epiphany quite some time ago. “Ugh,” I private message her…

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