These past few months I have been a bit inconsistent in my writing. It stems from what I will call the ‘Court-down’ aka the countdown. I had no idea the extent of preparation the months preceding court would entail. I have a new appreciation for the legal field. It’s my life and I have had…

One of the greatest divorce challenges is re-entering the workforce for those individuals who chose to stay home and raise their children. In fact, it’s the reason I have penned and not yet finished one of my columns tentatively titled “Don’t Ever Call Me a SAHM.” Reading the following Harvard Business Review article recently posted on…

There have been numerous articles out recently about Flip or Flop star Tarek El Moussa’s divorce. What caught my attention were his comments (and I paraphrase) that his adverse reactions to medications and his divorce were worse than cancer. This reminds me of a friend who once told me, “I buried one husband and divorced…

I know, a fairly shocking title – read on. There is one topic which never fails to bring an immediate reader response. Narcissism. My mother was what I would call a forerunner in the world of alcoholism. In a generation of women who stayed silent and dutiful in marriage and most importantly either ignored the…

I have always placed an amazing value on friendship. It’s one of the reasons I had a hard time leaving any man or woman behind.  If I love you it generally means I love you for life As we know, divorce taught me otherwise. You do in fact, have to leave many behind but in that transition…

With impending freedom, a girl can’t help but think maybe it’s time for a date. After all, I have a friend who is two years out of her divorce who actually looks younger and more beautiful. I must admit I find a fascination with it. More time has passed yet more beauty surfaces. It certainly makes…

While most will be anticipating their June vacations I will be anticipating a different type of respite. My court date. I can’t believe it. There will finally be some resolution to what will end up being a five-year divorce. I can truly start inching towards my future without the dragging the past along with it. I…

Just how do you get over a divorce? This is a ginormous question for those who face it.  I didn’t quite have the answer a few years ago. In truth, back then it seemed SO complicated. There was the devastating emotional aspect, The fall from grace community aspect, The pull yourself together aspect, The need…

In the beginning, divorce teaches you about pain, loss, and tears. Eventually, it opens up to far greater lessons which in many ways bring a more mature view on relationships. At the very least it offers a less idealist lens through which to peer at love. And provides the tough lessons of boundaries and self-protection which…

In high school, if my mom could hear me bickering with a friend she would pick up the telephone. “Girls,” she would say. “Are you being charitable?” My girlfriends and I would bust out laughing and completely forget the adolescent angst we knew just moments before.  Of course, so would my mother as she was…

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