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I am chatting with a few girls. “Hey, don’t talk about my friend like that!” says my friend who I will nickname ‘Rainbow.’ At first, I am startled. Did I just say something about someone I shouldn’t have? Oh, that’s right…I wasn’t talking about another person I was talking about myself in a self-deprecating manner.…

Take a trip and people will ask how it was? Choose a different profession and they will want to know if you love it. Date some new hottie and they will ask if you are happy. Get a divorce? Oddly, no one seems to ask… Are you glad you did it? Are you happier? Would you…

Divorce is trying and not just on the people experiencing it but on the individuals who know them. I have spoken candidly about judging one of my best friends because I was so worried about her and her family. I was younger, more naive and still believed I was living life right. I also recall…

A friend from high school reached out to me. She wanted to let me know that one of my columns so resonated with her that she shared it on Facebook. Having grown up together in Washington, D.C. I assumed it was the portion of the column where I spoke of getting involved and a larger…

A few weeks ago one of my boys and I went out to dinner. “Mom,” he said. “I understand divorce but dad made a promise to you all of those years ago.” I looked across the table with a lump in my throat. Not for the reason you think. And not because of the confusion…

I have known numerous individuals who just wanted a divorce and to move on. The problem? Their spouse was not ready to. Even more interesting? Some of these spouses had cheated, yet still could not let go of the marriage which they had sabotaged. The common denominator? The individual ready to move forward invested heavily…

I am watching the Steve Harvey Show. It’s a rerun highlighting the Girls Who Rule the World Program which the Harvey’s founded. A sweet teenage girl says something which catches me off guard. “I’m going through a divorce with my parents.” I am struck by the poignancy of her words. Most children simply say, “My parents…

I am in my car listening to the Garth Brooks song If Tomorrow Never Comes. A tear jerker of a song but on this day one verse catches my attention. “So I made a promise to myself.” It’s funny how you can hear words over and over again yet simultaneously feel as if you are hearing them for the…

Long before my divorce, I first had to face the demise of my marriage. I have a great girlfriend who fortunately was there at the time to set me straight. In true victim fashion, I bemoaned my loss. Why me? Why my marriage? Why my husband? Why my children? Why my family? Why?! Why?! Why?!…

Every once in a while, someone asks me if writing about divorce keeps me stuck. On the contrary, it is the one place I feel free. Where he can’t control me. It’s cathartic –  and when I hear from divorcing individuals who say they have found a safe haven it makes me happy. It was…
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