This is a hard one. We tell ourselves that bad things happen for a reason – until they happen to us. We can take the ‘little’ bad stuff but the ‘big’ bad – not so much. It’s not that we don’t have the faith to accept our pain as our purpose but rather we wish…

When I began attending professional writers conferences I would eagerly sit and listen to editors speak of ‘finding your voice.’ At the time, all I could think was…’What the heck does that mean?’ I’m writing my heart out. Isn’t my voice obvious? It took a while before I became seasoned enough to understand their message…

Take a trip and people will ask how it was? Choose a different profession and they will want to know if you love it. Date some new hottie and they will ask if you are happy. Get a divorce? Oddly, no one seems to ask… Are you glad you did it? Are you happier? Would you…

Long before my divorce, I first had to face the demise of my marriage. I have a great girlfriend who fortunately was there at the time to set me straight. In true victim fashion, I bemoaned my loss. Why me? Why my marriage? Why my husband? Why my children? Why my family? Why?! Why?! Why?!…

I once had a big dream.  To be a writer. My mother, on the other hand, believed writing was akin to acting. Business would be a far more sensible major. So off to college, I would go to learn the practical field of business. I remember sitting at my desk those first few days in…

Wishing you a Happy and faith-filled New Year!   “God will open doors.” – Colossians 4:3 “Pray first. Act second.” – Isaiah 8:20 “Always put your hope in God.” – Hosea 12:6 “Forget the former things; Do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; Do you…

It’s natural to have regrets in life. Few of us escape them. Often, they sleep within us and remain silently dormant. And then an uncomfortable life experience pokes the bear and wakes them from their slumber. It could be reaching a milestone birthday, the loss of a parent, the loss of a job, divorce, empty-nesting…

I spent plenty of time feeling sorry for myself. Why my marriage? Why my family? Why is history repeating itself? Why are my greatest fears coming true? Why me? It is wasted time playing the victim. Albeit, human nature. I refer to it as fighting God. I couldn’t understand why a dream as simple as…

In the darkest times and the deepest pain, it is not uncommon to feel completely alone. It seems cruel. An order of pain with a side of loneliness. It makes one question their faith. Why would God leave us alone? Our faith tells us that God leaves us feeling alone so that we find him.…

I remember at the very worst of my divorce stopping for a red light. Now, when I say the worst. I mean the War of the Roses, worst celebrity divorce, beleaguered, I don’t know how I will get out of bed this morning – DIVORCE. As I sat at that light, I thought “What a…

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