Self-help books push building self-love but most people are still in
short supply of it. It’s easy to encourage people to “love yourself” more and
sounds good, except to those who don’t know how to start. With pressure to look
and act perfect at an all time high, more people than ever don’t feel good
enough to be loved.
 
That’s why Beliefnet blogger and best-selling author, Daylle Deanna
Schwartz, registered January as Self-Love Month in the National Special
Events Registry, launched www.HowDoILoveMe.com, and initiated a 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge–a pledge to
do something loving for self on every day of January 2011, to jumpstart
awareness of making an effort to treat oneself with kindness. Daylle’s book,
How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways, is available for free as
an e-book on the site. Its 223 pages has hundreds of suggestions for treating
yourself more lovingly.
 
Daylle wants people to develop the kind of
self-love, and happiness, that she did. She knows how it feels to look in the
mirror and only feel self-loathing. Years ago, all she saw in the mirror was
cellulite and frizzy hair. Her perceived flaws blinded Daylle to her wonderful
qualities. Self-love was just for other people!
 
Daylle found the key to
self-love when she began to treat herself a bit more lovingly. The kinder she
was to herself, the better she felt. The better she felt, the more she made an
effort to do loving things. The synergy helped build strong self-appreciation,
which blossomed into powerful self-love.
 
Starting on January 1, 2011,
people can post what they do to show themselves love on www.HowDoILoveMe.com, to
help them reinforce each act of love and read what others do for more ideas.
Daylle will a 31 Days of Self-Love marathon of articles on her popular
blog, Lessons from a Recovering DoorMat on Beliefnet, for the entire month of
January. Daylle will give tips for building self-love as well as guest writers
and there will be interviews with inspirational people, including
SARK.
 
People can continue to post their self-loving acts for the whole
year. There will be a new challenge for January 2012. Daylle believes
that each little self-loving thing you do–from taking a short walk on a busy
day, to getting a massage, to saying “I love you” in the mirror, to saying “no”
to something you don’t’ want to do, to a minute of deep breathing, to taking
steps to find a better job, to making time for a bath, etc.– is a building block
for the foundation of self-love.
 
As negative habits are replaced with
kinder ones, self-love can become a lifestyle. For people who take the 31
Days of Self-Love Challenge, January could be the beginning of a beautiful
self-love affair!

Read Daylle’s inspiring blog, Lessons from a Recovering Doormat.

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