On the rare times that people come to me looking for advice, I hear them out and then ask the same question: “Do you really want it?” Whether it’s struggling for a promotion at work or losing weight, to me, everything comes down to desire. How bad do you want it? Because, when you truly desire a certain outcome or goal, nothing will stop you from attaining it.

Our powerhouse blogger Gabrielle Berstein of Spirit Junkie is asking the same question. In her vlog, she challenges viewers with this statement: “You can’t make change unless you really want to.”