In the HBO series “John Adams,” Adams calls Abigail, his wife, My Friend. He says she was his number one ballast; she was his advisor; and friend.

What one word best describes your relationship to your ministry spouse? What one word would your ministry spouse use to describe your relationship?

Scot McKnight’s response: when it comes to ministry situations with us, Kris is (among other things) my soundingboard and I think she would see herself as (among other things) supporter/analyst. It is rare after I speak that Kris doesn’t say something like “on that one point… it could have been set up better.” Helps every time. Every time.