Today we come to a text that, on its own, probably says all that needs to be said. Romans 9:22 in context:

19 You will say to me then, ?Why then does he still find fault? For who can resist his will?? 20 But who indeed are you, a human being, to argue with God? Will what is molded say to the one who molds it, ?Why have you made me like this?? 21 Has the potter no right over the clay, to make out of the same lump one object for special use and another for ordinary use? 22 What if God, desiring to show his wrath and to make known his power, has endured with much patience the objects of wrath that are made for destruction; 23 and what if he has done so in order to make known the riches of his glory for the objects of mercy, which he has prepared beforehand for glory? 24 including us whom he has called, not from the Jews only but also from the Gentiles? 25 As indeed he says in Hosea,
?Those who were not my people I will call ?my people,?
and her who was not beloved I will call ?beloved.??
26 ?And in the very place where it was said to them, ?You are not my people,?
there they shall be called children of the living God.?
Rom. 9:27 And Isaiah cries out concerning Israel, ?Though the number of the children of Israel were like the sand of the sea, only a remnant of them will be saved; 28 for the Lord will execute his sentence on the earth quickly and decisively.? 29 And as Isaiah predicted,
?If the Lord of hosts had not left survivors to us,
we would have fared like Sodom
and been made like Gomorrah.?

This could be historical wrath (70 AD type of thing) or eternal wrath.
God’s wrath is a “choice” or “will” of God (v. 22).
God has endured the sinfulness of sinners but will not forever.
God has endured in order to show his glory.
This is all God’s mercy.
Whatever you have to say, one thing is clear: Paul thinks God is a God who acts in wrath; Paul thinks God responds to human sinfulness with wrath; Paul thinks even God’s wrath visibly demonstrates his glory.