When I was a DoorMat I didn’t think about what I said, except to try to say what others wanted to hear. As I left DoorMatville, I began to see how choosing my words carefully made a HUGE difference in how I came across. You can get much better results by monitoring the words you use and being vigilant about how people respond to them, so you can find others if you’re not getting the response you’d like. For example:

•     “I’m sorry that I can’t help you” (when you don’t want to help!) can be, “I’m sorry that you’re disappointed that I can’t help.” Why apologize for not something you don’t want to do? The first set of words invite more requests to compensate for your being sorry.

•    “Can you schedule some time to meet with me?” can be “What’s a good time for you to meet with me?” The latter shows you’re expecting them to agree to meet with you instead of their first consideration being should they do it at all.

Below is a video that’s a great example of the power of using the best words possible to get what you want. When you get to the end I know you’ll be smiling, and enlightened!

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