Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

I was taught it’s nice to please people. And it is, as long as you don’t sacrifice your own needs to do it, as many of us do. Putting more into pleasing others than you do to please yourself is not being nice! It’s being a Doormat. Taking care of your needs is NOT selfish!…

January is Self-Love Month. Last year I began the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge to begin the year on a loving note. It’s a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the first 31 days of the year. But this challenge has run all year so people could pledge to do something kind for…

My guest today is Thomas Gagliano, author of The Problem Was Me: How to End Negative Self-Talk and Take Your Life to a New Level. About ten years ago, he started to spend less time in the business world and more time helping those who suffered like he had from addictive behaviors. He started to…

This is post 164 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Writing down your intentions makes them more concrete. Doing writing…

I met a young woman at an event recenly. We chatted for a little while. I told her some of how I managed to reinvent myself and listened to her story about how she’s trying to find her way. I also gave her some advice, which I often do, and didn’t think about it that…

Every year many Americans gather with their families and friends on the fourth Thursday in November. Often it’s a time to pig out eating lots of goodies and having fun. But the true spirit of Thanksgiving is one we should carry with us every day—gratitude. I like that this holiday reminds us to count our…

This is post 163 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. You attract everything you have, good or bad, by the…

I hear people brag that they never fight with loved ones. There seems to be a special pride about never fighting with a romantic partner. Unfortunately, that’s nothing to be proud of. Just because you keep things on an even keel, your relationship isn’t necessarily good. I avoided all arguments when I was a DoorMat.…

I’ve always been an upbeat person and known for my smile. As a child, people liked me more because of it so even when I had nothing to smile about, my mouth automatically curved up. Even when I grew up and became a full-fledged DoorMat, my basic nature was to be cheerful. It was expected…

I’m delighted to have Dr. Mark Chironna, certified life coach, author, and spiritual director as my guest today. Dr. Chironna’s authentic and compassionate approach to purposeful, destiny-infused living has transformed lives everywhere through one-on-one mentoring, speaking engagements, print and electronic media. His book, Live Your Dream, is an inspiring and practical handbook for strategic living.…

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