Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Everyone has experienced some hurts in their lives. It just happens. But many of us feel hurt as a lifestyle, though we may not recognize it. When I was a DoorMat, I pleased everyone to try to offset my insecurity about feeling fat and ugly. When I made someone happy, it eased my fears for…

People can be annoying. NO doubt about it! But I do believe that even when someone does something you know they did purposely against you, there’s a reason, and it’s probably not you. Our behavior often reflects emotions that we’ve experienced, or that are responses to situations in your life. Someone may snap at you…

I’m delight to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Her articles always bring a great response as she has such a great take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California. She is the author of MANY books. Tina also writes the “Dr. Romance” column on…

This is post 147 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Your thoughts control your reality. The Law of Attraction picks…

For 8 years we’ve watched Amy Winehouse battle addictions. As a music journalist, I see too many music artists fall into addictive patterns. Drugs and alcohol are all around the music biz. I’ve been to backstage parties where cocaine was passed around like M&Ms in a bowl. Even knowing the fate of legends like Kurt…

Have you ever gotten close to someone, whether for romance or just friendship, and everything was going along perfectly when they disappeared? It’s happened to me several times. Women especially complain about this phenomenon in relationship to a guy they were dating, as I have. I used to wonder why so many men run when…

I’m delighted to have Peter D Demarest as my guest today. Peter is the co-author of Answering The Central Question and a co-founder and President of Axiogenics, a company that develops and delivers cutting-edge, science-based services that identify and unleash the best in people, maximize success, and improve quality of life in all measures. Through…

This is post 146 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Do you ever feel like just when you’re happy and…

Letting go of old habits and people can be painful but it’s often necessary when you’re moving forward to leave DoorMatville and empower yourself. After my post on Monday, Baby Steppin’ to Bigger Success, a reader commented that she’s working her way out of DoorMatville and standing up for herself after being in an up…

On Tuesday I had a Law of Attraction in Action post on Friendship and how we attract the kinds of people we accept as friends. Here I tell you how I changed the message I sent to attract better friends. When I became single, life was wobbly at first. My married friends couldn’t relate to…

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