Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Since I’m focusing on learning to ask for what you need, here’s a practice I found helps me to ask. How does this relate to self-love? Asking for what you wants is an act of self-love. When you ask and get what you asked for, it makes you feel good, which fuels self-love. Even if…

This is post 136 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Yesterday I answered the question, Why do I have such…

I hear this question all the time. It’s tough for many of us to ask for favors or help or anything else we need. I hear it from both men and women, and people of all ages. You don’t have to be a DoorMat to have trouble asking. Even empowered people often are very hesitant…

I was unhappy for many years as I struggled to come up for air in the midst of people pleasing. I felt like I was lost, even though I knew how to get to the place I lived. But I couldn’t find me—the real me who had talent and deserved to be happy. I wanted…

When 91–year–old legendary management guru Martin Levin decided to adopt a dog named Angel, he expected an interesting experience, but not a challenging one. He soon learned that he was very wrong. Following one of the guiding mantras of his life—never stop learning—Levin found that each day with his dog brought new insights. His journey…

Do you kiss the people you love? I always do. I greet friends and family with a kiss and of course I kiss a boyfriend a lot. Kisses express caring and love. They feel good to the one you’re kissing. So why not send kisses to you? It may sound silly at first. After all,…

This is post 133 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. “Am I Ready For…” Marriage? A new job? Kids? To…

Expectations can take on a fantasy-like quality when they’re based on perfection. People pleasers try to be perfect for others and expect to receive back in the same perfect way. But they learn over and over that people don’t work that way. And they’re unhappy a lot since their happiness is based on having their…

I meet many people who make tons of money. They have enough to do whatever they’d like and almost automatically buy lots of expensive things. But, they’re so busy trying to make more money that they don’t make real time to enjoy what they have as they pursue more. When I was a DoorMat, I…

Yesterday I wrote about the amazing Cheryl Harvey Hill. A proud military woman married to a military man who she loves and cherishes, and vice versa, Cheryl has overcome obstacles that most people wouldn’t even try to take on. Here’s the rest of what she had to say: How did you feel when you were…

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