Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Hugs are therapeutic, even when you give them to yourself. Studies have shown that the more hugs you get, the stronger your well-being. Touch is therapeutic for your emotional health. Hugs, caressing, massages,…

Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love. Self-love and allowing yourself to be ta victim don’t work together. Victims rarely love themselves. It’s not loving to let others manipulate you. I hear folks moan, “Why do people use me?” And…

Today is Day 13 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. In my DoorMat Days I rarely had time for me and the activities I enjoyed because I was so fixed on doing what others wanted. “Me time” meant ME doing things for them.…

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love. One of the biggest self-love busters is body image. I don’t meet a lot of people who are completely happy with their bodies. People say they want to be thinner, more defined, taller,…

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love. This is post 121 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the…

You think you’d like to have fun but you don’t. You want to try new things but you don’t. You want to be more outgoing but don’t do anything outgoing. I was that way when I was a DoorMat and still feel like this for some new things I’d like to try. Yet you need…

I’m delighted to have Dr. Eva Selhub, a Clinical Associate of the Benson Henry Institute for Mind/Body Medicine at the Massachusetts General Hospital, as my guest today. An integrative health specialist, she has a private practice in Newton Massachusetts, and is also a clinical instructor of medicine at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Selhub is the…

We’re not brought up to say “I love me.” It can feel funny at first. And continue to feel funny for a while. I remember when I read about the importance of going to a mirror, looking into it, and saying, “I love you” to my reflection. What me? I didn’t want to look at…

Where does your self-image come from? Often it comes from old messages or perceptions. Insecurity can make us believe all the bad stuff people tell us and shrug off the good stuff. One negative comment can pierce a fragile ego. One mean spirited comparison can keep you comparing yourself to others in a way that…

I’m delight to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Her articles always bring a great response as she has such a great take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California. She is the author of MANY books. Tina also writes the “Dr. Romance” column on…

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